Should statements - You try to motivate yourself with shoulds, musts, and oughts. When directing should statements towards yourself (or others) feelings of anger, frustration and resentment will be felt.
Our current culture has been set up not to benefit humans but to benefit business. I'm talking about the culture where we are expected to show up to work at an expected time, do the expected work, and
I believed that I was trying to make too many changes at once. I wanted to cut back my use of alcohol. I wanted to only partake on special occasions. This has been working. I'm keeping up with it.
"Listening, pondering and sharing become my connection to the oneness of life, and there is no longer any part of me in exile." - from Embers In Internal Family Systems, exiles are those parts of ours